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Jada Pinkett-Smith’s Facebook page is becoming an oasis for me–providing reprieve from the oversharing of Rihanna, the cute mystery of Blue Ivy and the ratchetness of Erica Mena. The superstar producer likes to express herself candidly on her Facebook page and honestly, they come off like amazing Op-Eds. Her latest post focused on blended families and how she was able to live in harmony in her own with Will’s ex-wife, Sheree Fletcher.

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The post is in the form of a letter to a friend, who apparently is dealing with a blended family situation in which she’s unhappy and acting out against her husband. Jada goes in, calling her “friend” a “insecure child” because of her weak actions. Jada classifies this action as her saying she loves her man, but tries to push a wedge between him and his family that happened before she was a part of his life. Since Jada has gone through that herself, she can offer some sensible advice, rather tough love.

Check out the letter here:

A letter to a friend:

Blended families are NEVER easy, but here’s why I don’t have a lot of sympathy for your situation because… we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package…Period! If I didn’t want that…I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey…I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him…his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other… but we have learned to LOVE each other.

I can’t support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand. We can’t say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT’S selfishness…NOT love. WOMAN UP… I’ve been there…I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It’s time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.


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